BE KIND TO YOURSELF

I know that I’m late, but because a few days ago was the Mental Health Awareness Week, I wanted to dedicate a post on the blog since it’s something I consider really important and that shouldn’t be a tabu (because it sometimes feels like it). This year’s topic was kindness, and so that’s why I decided to write the title “be kind to yourself” since I feel like many times we forget so.

I learned, the bad way, that self-love and self-care is a must on everyone’s life and, even though it might seem a bit selfish to some, you should put yourself first when you feel you need to prioritise you before other things.

I’m not going to get into details on why I learned it the hard way since there are things that I prefer to keep private or for the closest people around me, but all I can say is that once I decided to move on I did the greatest change on my life. Not only I felt way better with how my life was turning out, but how I felt with myself and the people around me. I got to appreciate more the good moments, and accept the bad ones (because it’s completely okay to have bad days).

With that, I’m not saying that people who care about themselves do not care about others too. I do consider myself a “caregiver type” of person, and that didn’t change at all when I started taking more care of myself too. One thing does not diminish the other.

Taking care of myself doesn’t mean “me first”. It means “me too”. – L. R. Knost

Also, I think that mental health is really important right now because of the situation we’re living in. It’s been really hard for many people to go through such a sudden change and many other situations such as losing a job or someone you love. And, now that looks like things are getting slightly better and some countries are starting to let people out (always following the safety guidelines) and it’s a new and shocking reality we have to get used to.

With all of this, I want to say that I know how hard times feel like because many of us have been there and that it’s okay to have bad days when you don’t feel your best and things feel heavier, so all you want to do is stay in bed and watch Netflix. Honestly, that’s a great plan if that’s what you fancy.

I’ve had many of those days too, and by now I figured out ways and activities to make me feel better. I’ll share some of them with you in case they might work for you as well:

Read: Reading always relaxes me so much and makes my head instantly forget about what I was thinking and completely focus on what I’m reading. Some of the books I’m enjoying a lot right now are Wuthering Heights and The Picture of Dorian Gray (classic books I love and read over and over again), and then The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and Good Vibes Good Life (always with a pen or highlighter on the other hand) for inspiration.

Watch Netflix and films: Nothing better than being cosy on the sofa watching something you enjoy to forget about everything else and have an entertained time. I would recommend you to watch Money Heist on Netflix, and then when it comes to films I absolutely adore The Great Gatsby (my favourite film) or some Audrey Hepburn’s films (always so relaxing).

A warm drink: Avoid drinks that make you feel too excited (coffee), and go for warm drinks to make you feel cosier. I always say that a warm drink warms my heart, and it’s the perfect match for all the other “activity ideas” I’m sharing with you.

Listen to music: Of course, I had to include music too. I love putting on the headphones and listen to good relaxing music such as Ludovico Einaudi, Craig Armstrong, and I would even say The XX.

Good company: I’m usually the type that likes to be alone when feeling bad because I just don’t want to talk and give explanations to anyone, but I do agree that good company is the best thing you can ask for.

These are all things that really help me stay calm and go through those rough days. Again, I want you to know that it’s okay to feel down sometimes, and you should allow yourself to accept those days and do what you feel like doing.

Also, it’s as important to be kind to yourself as it is to be kind to other people. Never forget that there are many people around you going to through times and that they might need some comprehension or a helping hand. Now, more than ever, we have to take care of us and those around to make sure everyone is feeling fine and getting used to this weird reality we’re all living.

What do you do on a bad day? Any other activity that helps you go through days like that? Definitely tell me so in the comments down below and I’ll be glad to read!

Love and lipstick ❤

Remember to always be kind to yourself and the people around you.

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